ORIGIN & HISTORY
Origin of the name
The word condom is probably derived
from Latin "condus" meaning receptacle. Another explanation is that
the gut condom was invented by the English army doctor Colonel Quondam
in around 1645 and that the word is a corruption of his name. We
do not know who invented condoms, but we do know that they were
in use. There is evidence of this in the writings of Marquis de
Sade, Casanova and James Boswell. The latter, a Scottish lawyer
and writer, protected himself against sexually transmitted diseases
by using a linen condom. During a visit to an Amsterdam brothel
in 1764, he drank with a prostitute, but the encounter went no further
as he'd left his "armour" behind. When visiting a brothel in Marseilles,
Casanova tried so-called "English raincoats", and spoke of reaching
great heights.
The oldest illustration of a condom
was found in Egypt and dates back more than 3,000 years. It is difficult
to judge from the drawing what the ancient Egyptian wearing the
condom had in mind. He may have worn it for sexual or ritual reasons-or
both. Some claim that, in later times, the Romans made condoms from
the muscle tissue of warriors they defeated in battle. The oldest
condoms were discovered in the foundations of Dudley Castle near
Birmingham, England. They were made of fish and animal intestine
and dated back to 1640. They were probably used to prevent transmission
of sexually transmitted infections during the war between the forces
of Oliver Cromwell and soldiers loyal to King Charles I.
Ancient Times
Throughout the age's people have
tried to find ways of preventing conception and venereal diseases.
Obvious methods, such as withdrawal, the rhythm method, douches,
and sponges were used, as were various predecessors of today's condom.
In ancient Egypt, a linen sheath was used as protection against
troublesome insects and tropical diseases. The Chinese tried to
prevent infection by wrapping oiled silk paper around the penis,
and the Japanese had leather and tortoiseshell sheaths. The Romans
used tampons that had been dipped in herbs and condoms made of goats'
bladders.
Middle Ages
The history of condoms in Europe
begins in the sixteenth century, when the venereal disease syphilis
reached epidemic proportions. In 1564, the Italian doctor Gabriel
Falloppio wrote in the book 'Morbo Gallico', that a linen bag drenched
in a solution of salt or herbs formed a protection against the disease.
In the eighteenth century linen and silk condoms were used, as well
as sheaths made of lambs and goats' gut. To prevent them slipping
off, a ribbon on the open end of the condom was tied around the
penis. The sheaths made of bladder or gut could be used more than
once; in contemporary paintings and prints, they are some-times
seen hanging on a hook or a clothesline to dry.
Historians disagree about how condoms
got their name. Some say a "Dr. Condom" supplied King Charles II
of England with animal-tissue sheaths to keep him from fathering
illegitimate children and getting diseases from prostitutes. Others
claim the word comes from a "Dr. Condon" or a "Colonel Cundum."
It may be more likely that the word derives from the Latin "Condon",
meaning "receptacle."
In the 18th century, the famous womanizer,
Casanova, wore condoms made of linen. Rubber condoms were mass-produced
after 1844, when Charles Goodyear patented the vulcanization of
rubber, which he invented five years earlier. Condoms made of sheep's
intestines are still available. They are now disposable and should
only be used once. In the 1940s and 50s, they were washed, slathered
in petroleum jelly, and kept in little wooden boxes in a bedroom
drawer-but they weren't talked about-in front of the kids, anyway
What is a condom?
Condoms are a thin rubber tube, which
fits over the man's erect penis before intercourse. When the man
ejaculates, he does so into the condom that prevents the sperm from
entering the vagina. Most condoms are made of latex and when coated
with spermicide is considered an effective means of protection from
pregnancy and the spread of STIs. There are other condoms available
that are made of animal intestine but these are less effective for
disease prevention.
Latex condoms
In 1839, Charles Goodyear discovered
a way of processing natural rubber, which is too stiff when cold
and too soft when warm, in such a way as to make it elastic. This
had advantages for making condoms; unlike the sheep's' gut condoms,
they could stretch and did not tear so quickly when used. Those
very early rubbers had a seam and were as thick as an inner tube,
so they could not have been very comfortable. Besides this type,
small rubber condoms covering only the glans were often used in
England and the United States. There was more risk of losing them,
of course, and if the rubber ring were too tight, it would constrict
the penis. This condom was the original "capote" (French for condom),
perhaps because of its similarity to a woman's bonnet worn at the
time, also called a capote. A century later, it was hoped the invention
of plastic and other man-made materials would lead to an improvement
in the quality of condoms. That was not the case. What could be
done however was, something about the speedy deterioration of the
rubber. Since that time, condoms have not only become thinner but
also more reliable. In 1995, plastic condoms went on the market
in the USA.
Manufacturing
Latex, the sap from a rubber tree
is the raw material for condoms. It is obtained by making a slanted
cut in the bark of the tree. A bucket is hung under the cut, which
catches the sap. It is a continual and labour intensive process.
More than 80% of rubber is used in the car industry, mainly for
tyres. Rubber plantations are primarily located in Malaysia, Indonesia,
Thailand, India, Sri Lanka, Vietnam, Nigeria, and the Ivory Coast.
The production of condoms from latex
is relatively simple and since 1920, has virtually remained unchanged.
In the condom factory, a large vat
is filled with latex and various chemicals are added to ensure the
durability of the end product. Next, a row of glass moulds (in the
form of condoms), suspended from a conveyor belt, is plunged into
the latex, a technique known as "dipping". The moulds go through
a series of latex dips, turning themselves around to insure even
distribution and a thin layer of latex. Between each dip, they are
dried with hot air and vulcanised. This treatment insures optimal
malleability, elasticity, and durability. A powerful water-jet spray
then releases the condoms. Next, in the finishing phase, the condoms
are dried and powdered. They then go through a series of procedures
to test their quality. Afterwards a lubricant may be added and they
are packaged in a hygienic, airtight aluminum pack. During the entire
production process, the condoms are constantly undergoing quality
controls.
Remember:
- Never use a condom more than once.
- Always use a latex condom for effective prevention of STIs.
- Lubricated condoms offer more protection from breakage and spillage
of semen.
- Always use water-based lubricants.
- You can double up condoms during vigorous sex. Use an unlubricated
condom on the bottom, and a lubricated one on the top.
- Unlubricated condoms are best for oral sex.
Practical concerns when using condoms
One of the problems with a condom is that you must interrupt foreplay
momentarily to put it on. Some people are wrapped up in the moment
and forget to practice safer sex. Making the condom a part of your
sexual ritual will go a long way to ensuring proper use. Additional
incentives to use condoms are the many varieties and brands to choose
from. Condoms come in different sizes and some have special ridges
to increase enjoyment for both partners. Experiment with different
brands until you find the one that is best for you. Another concern
is that latex condoms are weakened by oil-based lubricants such
as Vaseline, edible oils and medications. If you wish to use lubricants
during sex play make sure that they are water based.
How effective are condoms?
When condoms are used properly, they
are about 95% effective in the prevention of pregnancy. When condoms
are used with spermicidal foam, their effectiveness rate is nearly
100%. Furthermore, condoms provide excellent protection from the
spread of sexually transmitted diseases, although the exact rates
of success are unknown. The latex condom is the recommended form
of STD and pregnancy prevention.
CONDOM USAGE
When using a condom, you check for
holes and review the expiry date. [Note: never carry a condom in
a hot, confined place such as your wallet. Always ensure they are
kept out of direct sunlight.] Squeeze the tip to release the air
and then roll the condom down to the base of the penis. Some rolled
latex will remain at the base of the penis to make it easier to
pull the condom off after ejaculation. Be sure that your fingernails
or jewelry do not damage or rip the condom. After orgasm, the man
should hold the base of the condom during withdrawal from the vagina
or anus. After the condom is away from the genitals of the partner,
the condom can be safely removed.
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Selecting Condoms
Try a variety of condoms to find
the brand that works for you. Often, some brands provide a better
fit than others, and a good fit is important to the optimal operation
of the condom. Keep in mind the following:
- For vaginally and anally penetrative sex, you will probably
be adding lube from your plastic lube bottle to the outside of
the condom. Thus, whether the condom is pre-lubed is not important
if you have lube of your own.
- Uncircumcised men may find contoured condoms more comfortable,
and circumcised men may find form-fit condoms more comfortable.
- For use on penises, select a condom with a reservoir tip. you
may select a condom with a plain (non-reservoir) tip if you wish.
- For fellatio, be sure you are using a condom . You do not need
to add lube outside of the condom, obviously, but feel free to
put some inside - perhaps a little more than usual.
Caring for Condoms
Throw them away if they are past
the expiration (EXP) date or four years past the manufacturing (MFG)
date. Don't let them get punctured, or get exposed to temperatures
outside their specified range (in particular, don't keep latex condoms
in your wallet, in a glove compartment where they can overheat,
or in the same pocket of a purse where the safety pins and keys
are kept...). Be aware that it is possible to damage a condom during
use by scraping it with fingernails, jewelry, and teeth. Open condom
packages carefully, by tearing the package vertically with your
fingers at a corner. Do not try to test condoms yourself before
use by unrolling them, filling them with water, or inflating them.
This will only weaken them.
Making Condom Use Pleasurable Through Psychology
To eroticize condoms , masturbate
with them. When you have found your favorite brand of condom, practice
with it. Practice taking it out of the package without tearing it
and practice putting it on (thinking about your favorite act of
sex as you do so).
Instructions for Condom Use
- Do not contact the vulva or anus of your partner with your penis
until a condom has been applied.
- Remove the condom from the package carefully, and note which
direction is "up" (discard the condom and put on another if you
try to put it on upside down; the condom should be unrolled with
the tube of latex emerging from the INSIDE of the ring at the
base). Do not unroll the condom before putting it on.
- Wait until you have a full erection before putting on the condom.
- If you want to put a small drop of lube inside the tip of the
condom to increase sensation, then do so before unrolling the
condom.
- If you are uncircumcised, pull your foreskin back.
- Roll the condom down, holding the top half-inch (or receptacle
tip) of the condom between your fingers as you do so. This keeps
out air bubbles, and helps the condom operate properly. It should
leave a reserve space at the top end when the condom is entirely
rolled down.
- Roll the condom ALL the way down, and then give the whole thing
a good squeeze to help it stay on.
- Apply lube to the outside of the condom (except for fellatio).
- Check the condom periodically during sex, do not penetrate past
the base of the condom, and reapply/reconstitute lube whenever
necessary (especially when you feel the condom start to get hot).
- If you ejaculate while having sex, hold the condom near the
base and pull out while still hard.
- Remove the condom (possibly covering your hand with a tissue
or towelette) and discard it in such a way that someone will not
be exposed to it later.
- Depending on how you removed the condom, you may then wish to
wash your hands and/or genitals (or use an anti-bacterial towelette),
or at least not touch your eyes or genitals until you have had
a chance to do so.
Comments on Condom Slippage and Breakage
When the steps listed in "Instructions
for Condom Use" are followed correctly, and the condom has been
cared for properly, it will very rarely if ever slip or break for
most people. However, if you do experience slippage or breakage,
then in the interest of keeping things simple try the first six
suggestions in "Practices that Can Help" section before trying the
more extreme later suggestions.
Prevention of Condom Breakage
Condoms that Can Help
Any condom that is stronger than
average, or stronger than the brand you experienced breakage with,
should be of assistance (it should be noted, though, that the FDA
rigorously tests condoms, and so there should be no condoms on the
market, which are patently and consistently unsafe). Using a condom
that is much too small can cause sometimes breakage. It should also
be noted that some of the same conditions, which cause breakage,
could also cause slippage, so one should consider using a condom
such as Mentor if breakage is a concern.
Practices that Can Help
Using more lube outside the condom
and reapplying/reconstituting it often (possibly when you feel the
condom start to get hot, or sooner), and replacing the condom every
once in a while can help. Men who engage in intercourse that lasts
for extended periods of time can especially benefit from this advice.
As usual, it's a good idea to check condoms periodically during
sex.
Recovery from a Condom Slipping Off or Tearing
Unless you are strongly allergic,
apply a spermicide liberally to/inside the affected genital areas
of both partners, and let it remain there for at least fifteen minutes.
Men may urinate and wash their genitals before applying the spermicide
for substantial extra protection. Do not douche vaginally or anally
following condom breakage; this will only push possibly infectious
substances in further. In general, you may wish to always wash any
areas of your body that come into contact with body fluids of another.
If you believe that you have been exposed to an STD, see your health
care provider as soon as possible.
Advanced Condom Use
Switching from Anal to Vaginal Penetration
If you plan to switch from anal to
vaginal intercourse during sex, take care to avoid transmitting
bacteria from one region to the other. Different barriers must be
used to avoid increased risk of vaginitis. Basically, take off the
old condom, and put on a new one.
Putting on a Condom with One's Mouth
Open the condom, and unroll it a
little way Open your lips into a letter "O" Put the condom (making
sure that it's facing the right direction) between your upper and
lower lips, in front of the teeth Holding on to the penis or dildo
with one hand, put your mouth on that penis or dildo. Tighten your
lips and push down on the rim of the condom Push from the neck to
unroll the condom down the penis or dildo
Wearing Two Condoms At Once
The friction of latex on latex can
cause problems for those who use more than one latex condom at once.
The use of more than one latex condom at once is considered a last
resort, after the suggestions in "Preventing Condom Breakage" have
been followed and found to be insufficient.
Making Safer Sex Fun
For many, safer sex has become a
chore- something that you do so you don't suffer the consequences.
The portrayal of safer sex in the media is often sterile, almost
medical. We are bombarded with images and advice about safer sex.
Condom companies market their products on television; AIDS activists
make us fear for our lives (and rightly so…) and news stories tell
us about the ever-increasing number of unwanted pregnancies. The
fact that many of us have to change our behavior is quite clear;
sex can be dangerous in certain ways with certain people. But wait
a minute…sex is supposed to be fun, to be a means of expressing
love, and of sharing in one another. Well, sex can still be fun,
it just has to be practiced in a newfangled way. Hopefully some
of the suggestions below will help you to learn some new tricks
to being safe and having pleasurable, satisfying sex.
Making the condom ritual a winner with your lover
The condom is the most widely used
method for safer sex. Although the condom is one of the best ways
to protect against several STDs, many men and women complain that
the condom tends to 'dull the feeling', making sex less pleasurable.
Well, you're going to have to live with a little reduction in sensation,
because latex does act to cover the nerves that produce pleasure
on the penis, and alter the feeling of the penis in the vagina for
the woman. However, all is not lost- there are ways to increase
sensation for you and your partner when wearing a condom.
Shop around.
Try a variety of different condoms.
Experiment with the length, thickness and features of the condom.
Some condoms come with ribbing or ridges that act to increase stimulation
for the receiving partner. Other condoms come with flavoring and
fun colors as a pleasant alternative. Buy a bunch of different kinds
(you can find them in adult stores and pharmacies) and try them
all until you find the ones that feel just right. The trying is
almost as fun as the finding!
Dress your condom up for pleasure
Just before you put on the condom,
spread some water-based lubricant (also found at most drug stores)
on the head of your penis. The glans is then gently massaged by
the lubricant as intercourse takes place. As you can imagine this
one is real popular, and the enjoyment starts the minute you run
to the bedroom and try it!
Spend more time on foreplay
Most foreplay is perfectly safe,
and is often as pleasurable as sex itself. Safer sex couples who
want to get the most out of every bit of lovemaking will stretch
foreplay until both are near or approaching climax. Put that condom
on and enjoy each other -sex after lasting foreplay will make you
forget the condom is even there.
Maintain a positive attitude
Experiment with which partner puts
the condom on. Try to incorporate the activity into your sexual
'routine'. Be creative with the before and after, and always make
it fun!
Condoms, dental dams, and oral sex
Performing oral sex using a dental
dam or condom can be an unpleasant taste experience. One major complaint
about latex has always been its displeasing taste. What is worse,
latex that is pretreated with lubricant can turn any normal condom
into a nightmare for the taste buds.
Here is some advice:
Get your own lubricants
If you find your own brand of lubricant,
you can start buying unlubricated condoms or dental dams to use
for oral sex, and lubricate when you are ready to have intercourse.
Also, many lubricants come in a variety of flavors which many a
mouth finds more pleasant than latex.
Buy flavored condoms and dental dams.
Most erotic boutiques have a variety
of condoms, which will please even the most discriminating tastes.
You may even like the taste of flavored latex more than the real
thing!
Some alternatives to the dental dam
Dental dams offer a unique kind of
problem. Many people do not like to use dental dams because they
like to feel the tongue to clitoris or tongue to anus stimulation.
Along with dental dams, you can employ some other stimulation to
complete the experience. Wear a latex glove covered in lubricant
to further tease your partner's anus or vagina. If dental dams are
becoming a problem because you are tired of holding something on
your partner, you can use plastic wrap and wrap it around the vagina
and/or anus. While cellophane is not as good protection as latex
(and should never be used instead of condoms), using it will keep
the hands free to use elsewhere.
Use lubricant inside and outside
the condom. (Many condoms are pre-lubricated.) Lubrication helps
prevent rips and tears, and it increases sensitivity. Use only water-based
lubricants, such as K-Y® jelly or LUVE, with latex condoms. Oil-based
lubricants like petroleum jelly, cold cream, butter, or mineral
and vegetable oils damage latex.
| Safe with All Condoms |
Unsafe with Latex
Condoms |
| Aloe-9® |
head and body lotions
|
| AquaLube® |
cold creams |
| AstroGlide® |
Cornhuskers® lubricant |
| deLube® |
baby oil edible oils (olive,
peanut, corn, sunflower) |
| ForPlay® |
petroleum jelly |
| glycerin |
head and body lotions |
| Gynol II® |
massage oils |
| H-R ® lubricating jelly |
mineral oil |
| K-Y® Jelly |
petroleum jelly |
| PrePair® |
shortening |
| Ramses® Personal |
suntan oil and lotions |
| Spermicide |
Bag Balm® |
| silicone lubricant |
whipped cream |
| spermicide |
certain vaginal yeast
|
| Touch® Personal |
infection medications |
| Lubricant |
|
| water and saliva |
|
| Wet® |
|
10 Reasons to use Condoms
- Condoms are the only contraceptive that also help prevent the
spread of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's) including HIV
(the virus that causes AIDS) when used properly and consistently.
- Condoms are one of the most reliable methods of birth control
when used properly and consistently.
- Condoms have none of the medical side effects of systemic birth
control methods.
- Condoms are available in various shapes, colours, flavours,
textures and sizes - to heighten the fun of making love with condoms.
- Condoms can help to provide women with protection from cancer
of the cervix.
- Condoms are now widely available in pharmacies, supermarkets,
and convenience stores. You do not usually need a prescription
or a visit to the doctor.
- Condoms make sex less messy.
- Condoms are user friendly. With a little practice, they can
also add confidence to the enjoyment of sex.
- Condoms are an essential necessity of modern life for many people.
- Condoms are only needed for sex unlike most systemic contraceptives
which requires you to 'take' the medication regularly.
CONDOM NEGOTIATIONS
How to talk about condoms with a
resistant, defensive, or manipulative partner.
- If the partner says: "I'm on the Pill, you don't need a condom."
You can say: "I'd like to use it anyway. We'll both be protected
from infections we may not realize we have."
- If the partner says: "I know I'm clean (disease-free); I haven't
had sex with anyone in X months." You can say: "Thanks for telling
me. As far as I know, I'm disease-free, too. But I'd still like
to use a condom since either of us could have an infection and
not know it."
- If the partner says: "I'm a virgin." You can say: "I'm not.
This way we'll both be protected."
- If the partner says: "I can't feel a thing when I wear a condom;
it's like wearing a raincoat in the shower." You can say: "Even
if you lose some sensation, you'll still have plenty left."
- If the partner says: "I'll lose my erection by the time I stop
and put it on." You can say: "I'll help you put it on -- that'll
help you keep it."
- If the partner says: "By the time you put it on, I'm out of
the mood." You can say: "Maybe so, but we feel strongly enough
for each other to stay in the mood."
- If the partner says: "It destroys the romantic atmosphere."
You can say: "It doesn't have to be that way."
- If the partner says: "Condoms are unnatural, fake, a total turnoff."
You can say: "Please let's try to work this out -- an infection
isn't so great either. So let's give the condom a try. Or maybe
we can look for alternatives."
- If the partner says: "What kinds of alternatives?" You can say:
"Maybe we'll just pet, or postpone sex for a while."
- If the partner says: "This is an insult! Do you think I'm some
sort of disease-ridden slut (gigolo)?" You can say: "I didn't
say or imply that. I care for you, but in my opinion, it's best
to use a condom."
- If the partner says: "None of my other boyfriends uses a condom.
A real man isn't afraid." You can say: "Please don't compare me
to them. A real man cares about the woman he dates, himself, and
about their relationship."
- If the partner says: "I love you! Would I give you an infection?"
You can say: "Not intentionally. But many people don't know they're
infected. That's why this is best for both of us right now."
- If the partner says: "Just this once." You can say: "Once is
all it takes."
- If the partner says: "I don't have a condom with me." You can
say: "I do." Or "Then let's satisfy each other without intercourse."
- If the partner says: "You carry a condom around with you? You
were planning to seduce me!" You can say: "I always carry one
with me because I care about myself. I have one with me tonight
because I care about us both."
- If the partner says: "I won't have sex with you if you're going
to use a condom." You can say: "So let's put it off until we can
agree." Or "OK, then let's try some other things besides intercourse."
HERE ARE SOME IDEAS ON WHAT TO SAY, WHEN THEY SAY...
- If your partner says: "It doesn't feel as good with a rubber".
You can say: "I'll feel more relaxed. If I'm more relaxed, I can
make it feel better for you".
- If Your Partner Says: "But we've never used a condom before".
You can say: "I don't want to take any more risks".
- If your partner says: "Rubbers are gross". You can say: "Being
pregnant when I don't want to be is more gross and getting AIDS
is totally gross".
- If Your partner says: "Don't you trust me?" You can say: "Trust
isn't the point. People carry STDs without knowing it". If your
partner says: "I'll pull out in time." You can say: "Women can
get pregnant and STDs from pre-cum".
- If your partner says: "I thought you said using condoms made
you feel cheap". You can say: "I decided to face facts. I like
having sex and I want to stay healthy and happy".
- If your partner says: "Rubbers aren't romantic". You can say:
"What's more romantic than making love and protecting each other's
health at the same time".
- If your partner says: "Let's face it. Making love with a rubber
on is like taking a shower with a raincoat on". You can say: "You
face it. Doing it without a rubber isn't making love-it's playing
Russian roulette".
- If your partner says: "It just isn't as sensitive". You can
say: "Maybe that way you'll last even longer and that will make
up for it".
- If your partner says: "I don't stay hard when I put on a condom".
You can say: "I can do something about that".
- If your partner says: "Putting it on interrupts everything".
You can say: "Not if I help put it on".
- If your partner says: "I'll try, but it might not work". You
can say: "Practice makes perfect".
- If your partner says: "But I love you". You can say: "Then you'll
help me protect myself".
- If your partner says: "I guess you don't really love me". You
can say: "I do, but I'm not risking my future to prove it".
- If your partner says: "We're not using a rubber, and that's
it". You can say: "O.K. You know how to play checkers?"
- If you are a virgin, have decided to have sex, and want to use
a Condom and your partner says: "Just this once without it. just
the first time". You can say: "It only takes once to get pregnant.
It only takes once to get a disease".
Do not be afraid of being rejected.
Remember, when people are given the choice of intercourse with a
condom or no intercourse at all, most people will choose to use
a condom. Besides, the partner who does not care about protecting
your health and well-being is not worth your sexual involvement.
REMEMBER: Condoms help prevent
pregnancy. Condoms help prevent sexually transmitted infections.
Condoms are easy to get. Condoms are inexpensive. Condoms are lightweight
and disposable. Condom use does not need medical supervision. Condoms
may help a man stay erect longer. It is normal to want to have sex
without causing pregnancy and without getting a sexually transmitted
infection. Condoms can significantly reduce the rates of unintended
pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.
ACCESSORIES
LUBRICANTS
Purpose and Use
Lubricants can protect barriers against
friction that might otherwise tear them. The use of sufficient lube
on the outside of a condom can help prevent condom slippage, as
long as it is reapplied when necessary.
Lubricants can increase the pleasure
and comfort of anally or vaginally penetrative sex and masturbation.
Most experts recommend the use of lubricants for anal sex in all
cases, and almost everyone reports that vaginal sex and masturbation
feel much better when it is being used.
As most lubricants transmit thermal
energy well, they can increase the sensation transmitted through
a barrier; they can also cause the barrier to move in a stimulating
way against the skin. These are the rationales behind putting a
small drop of lube inside a condom at the tip or on the genital/anal
side of an oral barrier. The hope is that it will increase sensitivity
and pleasure.
Common Lubricant Materials
Water-Based Lubes
These are safe to be used with latex
and any other barrier material. Water-based lubes tend to dry out
during prolonged use. One may either reapply them, or spray the
area with water from a spray bottle to reconstitute the lube. If
you find that irritations such as vaginitis are a persistent problem
(and assuming you have eliminated the possibilities of being allergic
to any spermicide being used and of being allergic to the barrier
material itself), then try switching to a lube, which does not contain
glycerin, Glycerin irritation is rare.
Oil-Based Lubes
No lube with oil in it should be
used with a latex barrier. Oil causes latex to degrade and ultimately
tear; many of the reported failures of latex condoms occur because
an oil-based lube was used as a lubricant. Also, oil-based lubes
used in the vagina may increase the probability of vaginitis. Note
that many products such as hand and body lotions contain oils. Since
most barriers available are latex based, you should assume that
a barrier is latex, and hence should not be exposed to anything
bearing oil, unless you KNOW otherwise.
If oil-based lubes are going to be
used (and again, they should only be used with barriers made out
of substances other than latex, such as nitrile or polyurethane),
it is preferable from a health standpoint to select a vegetable-based
product, such as sunflower oil instead of a petroleum based product,
such as Vaseline.
The Dental Dam:
What is a dental dam?
A dental dam is a small sheet of
latex, which acts as a barrier between the vagina or anus and the
mouth. Dental dams get their name because they are used during dental
surgery such as root canals. Due to the possible infectious secretions
from both the vagina and anus, the dental dam is becoming a more
popular safer sex tool. With the introduction of different colors,
shapes and sizes, manufacturers are adding some exciting changes
to what once was sterile translucent-white latex.
How effective are dental dams?
Dental dams are an extremely effective
means of preventing infection from vaginal or anal secretions. There
is little data available on rates of infection after use of the
dental dam. There are a few important concerns, which may reduce
the effectiveness of the barrier. Be sure the dam is free of holes
or breakage. You can check the dam before you use it by holding
it up to light or seeing if water is able to pass through it. Another
issue is oil-based lubricant, which can break down the latex and
may cause leaks. Finally, ensure that only one side of the dam encounters
the genitals, and that the dam is used only once. Otherwise, you
are defeating the whole purpose of using the dam in the first place.
How do you use dental dams?
Dental dams are not the most difficult
piece of protection to use. Some people prefer that the person performing
oral sex should hold the dam so that the receiver can just sit back
and relax. Others think that the receiver should hold the dam so
the other partner has his/her hands free for other stimulation.
As an alternative, some dental dams are now made with an adhesive
strip, which will hold the dam in place. Remember to use some water-based
lubricant on the vagina or anus beforehand to increase the amount
of stimulation received.
Practical concerns with dental dams
People often approach dental dams
with the fear that the sheet of latex will lessen the normally intense
stimulation of the tongue. The feeling of a dental dam is different
from the feeling of a tongue but it does not necessarily make it
a bad thing. Use plenty of water-based lubricant and one partner
can play with the latex in his/her mouth to provide their partner
with a new type of stimulation. The use of a dam is up to you. Oral
sex is considered to be less dangerous a practice than intercourse,
and fellatio is often less dangerous than oral-anal sex. The level
of protection you decide to use is your choice, but the safest sex
dictates you use a dental dam at all times.